The piece argues that The New York Times and some left-leaning writers are out of touch with the realities of working mothers, criticizing a recent profile of a conservative policy analyst as proof that the paper misunderstands everyday family life and the choices many women make.

The left often acts like life happens only inside a comfortable city bubble, unaware of what the rest of the country experiences. During the riots of 2020, for example, some on the left simply looked out at their upscale blocks and insisted the chaos wasn’t happening nearby. That kind of selective sight is a kind of willful ignorance that shapes bad reporting and weak arguments.

The New York Times is singled out here as emblematic of that blind spot, and public health reporter Anemona Hartocollis is the focus of the complaint. Hartocollis’s profile of a conservative analyst, Emma Waters, is presented as evidence that Times writers can’t fathom a working mother’s life.

Here is what Hartocollis wrote; the passage speaks for itself and invites a response from anyone who actually juggles work and kids. Read it and consider whether city-dwelling editorial types have any real grasp of how most families manage time and responsibility.

When I called Emma Waters for fact-checking, she always seemed to be on the go: driving to Virginia, about to board a plane. She had two children and was pregnant with a third. She was the main support of her young family. How did she do it? For a young conservative policy analyst who espouses putting marriage and children before career, she seemed awfully busy with … work!

Mrs. Waters (yes, she asked to be called Mrs.) told me she was “neither trad wife nor girlboss.” She seems fluent in both. I’m not sure a term for what she is has even been invented—yet.

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There is a term. It’s called a mother, and it’s a busy, practical role that doesn’t need a trendy label to make sense. That reality can be jarring for journalists who spend their days in editorial suites far removed from routine grocery runs, carpools, and overtime shifts. Too many reporters assume everyone’s life maps onto their own conveniences.

“It’s amazing how much leftist discourse is just them pretending not to understand things, thus making discourse impossible,” the screenshot reads. And that may be the most accurate thing ever posted on X.

Thanks to feminists and Democrats, it’s almost impossible for most women to stay home and raise their children full-time without having some source of income. And when you have children and a job, you’re busy; balancing schedules is the norm, not the exception. Living that reality makes you competent at multi-tasking, not ideologically inconsistent.

I used to work multiple jobs while in nursing school, going through a divorce, and raising three young children. If I wasn’t in class or clinicals, I was working: driving for Uber, doing home aide visits, and working on campus in the science lab. When I worked as a nurse, I covered a wide region, driving all over southeastern Wisconsin to visit patients and keep my household afloat.

Now I work from home, but the pace hasn’t softened—homeschooling, grocery runs, and occasional trips down South fill the calendar. This is life for many American women who make practical choices that fit their families and finances, not ideological checkboxes. I have no doubt Mrs. Waters has found a balance that suits her and her children, and her preference to be called “Mrs.” is her choice and her pride.

I thought women could choose how to be addressed, or is that a privilege only reserved for leftist women who do things the way Hartocollis approves of? That question matters because agency over identity and titles should not be policed by journalists with rigid narratives. Real women make complex choices without needing an editorial label to validate them.

Hartocollis seems intent on squeezing people into binary boxes—tradwife or girlboss—with no allowance for the messy overlap in between, and that narrow view does a disservice to readers. Humans are complicated, and trying to force lives into neat categories is exactly how public debate gets derailed. If The New York Times wants credibility on family issues, its reporters should spend less time theorizing from Manhattan and more time listening to the women who actually live these lives.