This piece argues against allowing ‘Trans Women’ into women-only spaces and lays out the personal, safety, and cultural reasons for that stance.
I don’t consider myself a feminist by any stretch of the imagination. Feminism has done more to harm women and make life difficult for the men I love than it’s done any good. At least the late-stage waves of feminism. That being said, I guess I do consider myself a so-called “TERF”—a “trans-exclusionary radical feminist”—if being a TERF means I have zero tolerance for stuff like this.
Watch a video like the one at the center of this piece and you’ll see why a lot of people are unsettled; it’s almost nine minutes that encapsulate what feels like a full-blown mental health crisis in certain activist circles. The footage is upsetting not because of graphic content but because it shows a person in real distress and the chaotic dynamics that follow.
In some ways, I feel tremendously sorry for the man in the video. He’s clearly unwell. “he’s a man. He was born a man, and he’ll die a man. I refuse to partake in that denial of reality.”
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There are a few details that jump out immediately. He makes little effort to present in any convincing way as female beyond a blue wig and pink shoes, and likely hasn’t undergone surgery or is on cross-sex hormones. He does not like being told no, he stomps and screams his pronouns, even yelling “she” when an officer points out the obvious, and it takes two officers to cuff him after a long struggle.
When you strip away activist talking points, the practical question remains: am I supposed to let this man into my bathroom or locker room? That is not an abstract policy debate for many women—it’s a basic safety concern about being alone with someone who displays anger, delusion, and volatility. The scene in the video makes that worry concrete rather than theoretical.
Some of the behaviors we see map onto patterns discussed in forums and subcultures where autogynephilia is named and debated, and where some individuals display misogynistic tendencies toward women who won’t date them. Those dynamics play out in dating spaces, in online communities, and in confrontations where a demand to be perceived as female becomes weaponized. When refusal is met with rage, the consequences for actual women can be severe.
Imagine that rage unleashed in a bathroom: ceramic fixtures, hard walls, and usually a single exit make those rooms uniquely dangerous if someone decides to escalate. I’m not a fighter; most women are smaller and less equipped to respond physically than an angry, adrenaline-charged adult male. The idea that a woman could be pinned, hurt, or worse in that setting is not paranoia when you can point to footage showing resistance to authority and explosive behavior.
That is why so many women object when activists push to grant access to bathrooms, locker rooms, maternity wards, lactation groups, and rape crisis centers. Allowing men who identify as female into these spaces shifts the risk profile for everyone involved and creates real, tangible fear for survivors and for mothers. It makes us fundamentally less safe, and we have the video to prove it.
Policy debates should not ignore the practical consequences of mixing private, vulnerable female spaces with people who may be violent, mentally unwell, or sexually motivated by the idea of being perceived as female. Calling out the danger is not hatred; it’s insisting that safety and biological reality matter when lives and bodies are at stake. Women deserve spaces where their privacy and protection come first, without being told that concern equals bigotry.
